The Reality Is Sobering: In The United

I Have Always Been With Men Who Were Type A, Alpha Males. I Must Exist Because I'm With Him, I'd Think. But What Made Them What They Were Also Often Meant They Were Lacking Empathy Genes. And Now I Know I Don't Need An Alpha Male; I Need Somebody Who's Interesting. I'm Not Pretending That I'm 100 Percent Healed, So I Might Not Know If A Man Is Right For Me Right Away, But It Wouldn't Take Me Seven Years To Figure It Out. Maybe A Month Or Two.

We Are Living On Average Today 34 Years Longer Than Our Great-grandparents Did.

What I Learned Is, We Have To Listen To Each Other, Even When We Don't Agree, Even When We Think We Hate Each Other. We Have To Listen To Each Others Narratives. Not Interrupt Defensively, Or With Hostility, But Really Try To Open Our Hearts And Listen With Empathy. I Learned So Much From That Meeting. It Was A Very Difficult Thing To Do And It Was One Of The Best Things That I Ever Did In My Life. Look What Scares You In The Face, And Try To Understand It. Empathy, I Have Learned, Is Revolutionary.

I Was Shocked Into The Realization That I Myself Had Played An Unwitting Role As A Movie Star And Sex Symbol In Perpetrating The Stereotypes That Affected Women All Over The World.

You May Be Old, You May Be In Your Third Act, But You Can Still Be Vital And Sexual And Funny. Life Isn't Over.