Iq And Technical Skills Are Important, But

The More Socially Intelligent You Are, The Happier And More Robust And More Enjoyable Your Relationships Will Be.

People Tend To Become More Emotionally Intelligent As They Age And Mature.

A Little Girl Who Finds A Puzzle Frustrating Might Ask Her Busy Mother (or Teacher) For Help. The Child Gets One Message If Her Mother Expresses Clear Pleasure At The Request And Quite Another If Mommy Responds With A Curt 'don't Bother Me - I've Got Important Work To Do.'

Educators, Long Disturbed By Schoolchildren's Lagging Scores In Math And Reading, Are Realizing There Is A Different And More Alarming Deficiency: Emotional Literacy. And While Laudable Efforts Are Being Made To Raise Academic Standards, This New And Troubling Deficiency Is Not Being Addressed In The Standard School Curriculum. As One Brooklyn Teacher Put It, The Present Emphasis In Schools Suggests That "we Care More About How Well Schoolchildren Can Read And Write Than Whether They'll Be Alive Next Week."

Simple Inattention Kills Empathy, Let Alone Compassion. So The First Step In Compassion Is To Notice The Other's Need. It All Begins With The Simple Act Of Attention.