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The Fact Is That Chinese Parents Can Do Things That Would Seem Unimaginable-even Legally Actionable-to Westerners. Chinese Mothers Can Say To Their Daughters, "hey Fatty-lose Some Weight." By Contrast, Western Parents Have To Tiptoe Around The Issue, Talking In Terms Of "health" And Never Ever Mentioning The F-word, And Their Kids Still End Up In Therapy For Eating Disorders And Negative Self Image.

My Youngest Sister, Cindy, Has Down Syndrome, And I Remember My Mother Spending Hours And Hours With Her, Teaching Her To Tie Her Shoelaces On Her Own, Drilling Multiplication Tables With Cindy, Practicing Piano Every Day With Her. No One Expected Cindy To Get A Ph.d.! But My Mom Wanted Her To Be The Best She Could Be, Within Her Limits.

I Think The Biggest Difference Is That I've Noticed Western Parents Seem Much More Concerned About Their Children's Psyches, Their Self-esteem, Whereas Tough Immigrant Parents Assume Strength Rather Than Fragility In Their Children And Therefore Behave Completely Differently.

The Chinese Mom Is Not The Helicopter Mom. I Would Never Do Their Homework For Them. It's All About: Take Responsibility, Don't Blame Others. Be Self-reliant. Never Blame The Teacher.

Western Parents Try To Respect Their Children’s Individuality, Encouraging Them To Pursue Their True Passions, Supporting Their Choices, And Providing Positive Reinforcement And A Nurturing Environment. By Contrast, The Chinese Believe That The Best Way To Protect Their Children Is By Preparing Them For The Future, Letting Them See What They’re Capable Of, And Arming Them With Skills, Work Habits, And Inner Confidence That No One Can Ever Take Away.