Emotional Self-control-- Delaying Gratification And Stifling Impulsiveness-

People Who Are Optimistic See A Failure As Due To Something That Can Be Changed So That They Can Succeed Next Time Around, While Pessimists Take The Blame For The Failure, Ascribing It To Some Characteristic They Are Helpless To Change.

Emotional Self-control Is Not The Same As Overcontrol, The Stifling Of All Feeling And Spontaneity....when Such Emotional Suppression Is Chronic, It Can Impair Thinking, Hamper Intellectual Performance And Interfere With Smooth Social Interaction. By Contrast, Emotional Competence Implies We Have A Choice As To How We Express Our Feelings.

The More Socially Intelligent You Are, The Happier And More Robust And More Enjoyable Your Relationships Will Be.

Well, Any Effort To Maximize Your Potential And Ability Is A Good Thing.

Self-absorption In All Its Forms Kills Empathy, Let Alone Compassion. When We Focus On Ourselves, Our World Contracts As Our Problems And Preoccupations Loom Large. But When We Focus On Others, Our World Expands. Our Own Problems Drift To The Periphery Of The Mind And So Seem Smaller, And We Increase Our Capacity For Connection - Or Compassionate Action.